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RESPECT

American Dictionary's definition:

1. To feel or show esteem for.
2. To be willing to show consideration for.
3. A feeling of deferential regard.
(To defer: to comply with or submit to the opinion or decision of another.)

T.R.N.'s translation:

1. To shut up.
2. To be not.
3. To have not.

Respect is often commanded--it is rarely requested. Respect is required. Earning respect is usually only applied to a child or teenager--adults aren't usually required to earn respect, parents especially. If a child or "subordinate" does not feel or show esteem, or have a feeling of regard for a "superior," perhaps there is a reason AND perhaps they are feeling or showing something else. If a child is not showing esteem, THEN WHAT IS THE CHILD SHOWING AND WHY? If a child is being commanded to comply with or submit to another, regardless of how the child feels, then the child is being told to shut up, be not, have not and will not know what is actually showing or being felt because it is not being witnessed or mirrored? If a child or "subordinate" is not willing to show consideration for, is that child or "subordinate" being considered? If the child’s authentic feelings are being considered, the child will learn to respond to that consideration in kind. If the child is being commanded to comply or submit to the opinion or decision of another, regardless of what the child feels or shows, then the child's sense-ability is definitely not being considered, heard or mirrored AND the child is not being encouraged to know their own feelings and make their own decisions.

If the child does not learn how to know their own feelings and make their own decisions, the child’s life journey will be guided by deference. Has the commander of respect considered his or her own unconsidered self, identified with that self or does his or her identity revolve around his or her role juxtaposed to the commandee? Has the commander read and identified with the Emotion Literate's Proclamation? Papoose photo, M. Magill, 6k Jpeg

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