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Giving LOVE the Last WORD:
 An Emotion Literate's Lexicon

Excerpt : Consider a frightened child that does not understand when an upset is temporary and less devastating than it appears. Even when the child is submerged in a state of inconsolability, the comfort and reassurance sent forth—through patient witness consistently offered—can go a long way in seeding its own neural pathway within that child’s brain. Given neuroplasticity, this approach continues to work for adult brains as well. Therein resides the essential spirit of this collection of poetic meditations and essays aiming to give the universal Love option more press—more neural pathway grooves—en route to kindling worldwide confidence in Love as the primary, conscious selection...
...when fear holds my breath, it’s always love that releases it.
I invite you to share, with me, this vision of freedom.

~Pamela Sacket, author

Hardcover edition available for individuals online
or
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AVAILABLE NOW on Patreon in PDF
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For some glimpses into the book's content and tone, click below to view.
~TWO MUSICAL BOOK TRAILERS~
(three brief videos as second trailer is in 2 parts)


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Obscure Language Artist Makes Disquieting Discovery:
FEAR DOES NOT SPEAK ENGLISH!

Giving LOVE the Last WORD book cover

Imagine her surprise when communication-obsessed Emotion Literacy Advocates' founder Pamela Sackett—body gripped with world-weary, leg-locking anxiety—discovered fear doesn't speak English!
Figuring out how to woo her hyperactive primitive brain to have lunch with her contemplation-paced refined mentality began with a deep breath and a pen.
In dogged pursuit of expanding the definition of fear's most disarming witness—LOVE—Pamela employed her critical-creative brain part, aha-ing countless ways to bring the elasticity of universal love more succinctly into our society's fear-addled view.
Giving LOVE the Last WORD dishes probing questions, thought-provoking essays and verses—reflective of Pamela's long-standing self and social awareness expedition—reminding her fellow travelers of the embracing power of love and self-revelation.
Insight-activating, this reassuring resource is for people with chronic pain who might also be thinkers, journal writers, dreamers and conversationalists, as well as for those who influence the lives of children.
High School Students' Comments:
...this book is so powerful and so needed...multiple times while reading, I paused to truly process the magnitude and relevance of Pamela's words...resonated very personally with me..the essays are quite rich and wonderfully dense...I loved reading this book so much....
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TESTIMONIALS

~RESPONSES to MUSICAL BOOK TRAILERS~

I LOVE both trailers. The sound of birds at the beginning of the first trailer immediately brings serenity and conveys the overall tone and mood of the book. I loved the excerpt from "A Far Cry." The song is so special, and honestly made me see the message of the book in a different way that resonated even more deeply than verbal discussion. I am a music lover, so I absolutely love that element.
~Varsha Jagadeesh, musician

Arriving at the perfect time. Enjoyed this a lot.
Thank you for your devotion to your work
and your love, passion and compassion for humanity
. ❤️
~Giacinta Mazzoccone Vosika, LMP & CRMT

So artistic! And relevant! Love the sound effects (the echo effect on the word scream and others)! Very moving and so professionally executed! And the message! So important in this day and age. This is so needed right now! Every politician should have a copy of this book in their hot little hands!! The text is amazing as usual and love, love, LOVE the design and transitions. The last word must always be LOVE. Can’t wait to see the book!!
~ Mark Magill, visual artist

Your healing insightful creations always inspire!
Brian Keaton, language teacher

Very interesting how you presented the way we deal with perceptions. As usual you give us a different way to realize what we are feeling. A journey that seems never ending because we are so good at denial and hiding the truth from ourselves.
I liked that you presented it so simply.
Catherine Houston, visual artist 

Written by a wise loving old friend who understands best what to do with a pen.
~Leslie Newman, social worker

What a generous gift this particular body of work is to the world. The invitation is beautiful and timely! Gentle and challenging tooThis gift, coming to us all soon. I highly recommend Pamela’s new book. The depth of her insights are both profound and hard won.Travel with her and find new language for old emotions, misplaced, drowned out, forgotten, but not lost.
The gifts are still here for each of us.
~Renée Smith, Founder, A Human Workplace

Beautifully done! Love the music, lyrics, the artwork, great concept! Very engaging and provocative! Important and timely message we need right now..
~Bill Franklin

Beautiful and generous work!!! Hooray for ELA! “Calling the courage in love to kindly rise!”  (lyric line in first trailer). What a beautiful offering. It’s absolutely perfect. I so look forward to sharing it with people and supporting this. So important in this tender time. Of course it is totally aligned with what I am going through. The colors, the sounds, the song, the images, and of course, the incredible words from the heart. So amazing and how wonderful that this was all able to come together! Pamela is a magician!
~Jennifer Johnson, Witness Within

The excerpts are beautiful and meaningful...inspiring me to start writing again.
I love the song.
💜
Rhonda Harris Kupfer

I truly love what you're conveying in these trailers, it's surely so damn relatable to literally everyone in the way we experience fear...I just wish everyone could be exposed to what you're writing here. Can I just say I LOVE "Practicing the Promise" (song in first trailer). I think the message there is one that begs reiteration for the especially jaded in these times.


The song in the second trailer feels really empowering, I must say. It's giving me a ton to think about...really really really looking forward to this book.


I just got my copy on Patreon
😁
~Marquise Sims, New York artist



For a deeper dive into viewpoints and teachings of Giving LOVE the Last WORDhere is a glimpse into the book’s “Appendix” comprising of questions Nathaniel Tok—a high school senior and founder of the Future Scholar Foundation—posed to Pamela in a conversation. 

Read the book to learn how Pamela addresses Nathaniel’s questions.

To join the conversation, contact ELA with your questions and comments.

*** In “An Invitation,” one of the book’s essays, you talked about how language can be used as both a tool for self-discovery and regulating fear (along with the concept of diaphragmatic breathing). I thought this contrast was really interesting between the "critical-creative" brain and the "animal-survival" brain. Do you think language is ultimately limited in its power to transform deeply forged emotional patterns? Is it possible that words can help rewire fearful responses as opposed to just keeping them in check if fear itself operates on a primal and nonverbal level? 

*** I really liked how you wove language with physical experience; it gave this piece a very intriguing feel. Not quite sure how to fully describe it, but at times—I think especially when you were talking about the diaphragmatic breathing—I felt not only mentally but also physically engaged. I took notice of my own breath and also remembered all the times when I used words to ground myself.


*** You framed fear as something that operates within individual survival mechanisms and societal structures like the media which is definitely true. Since fear is indeed both primal and systemic, and should be checked, is it love that is suppressing it when love releases your breath after fear holds it? Or, must love be paired with systemic/societal change of some kind to be fully effective? (I know this might not be entirely realistic, but just a thought that emerged...) 

[Pamela’s actual quote: When fear holds my breath, it’s always love that releases it.]


*** At the end of “An Invitation” you say: 

If and when love seems scarce and difficult to locate, especially when fear strikes and goes overboard in anticipation and pre-emptive defense, I invite you to join with me in summoning love from the wellspring of knowledge, curiosity, tender essence, and beloved breath of being

I think with this essay’s closing statement I wasn't quite sure what you were getting at...was there anything specific you meant by summoning love?
*** In the essay “A Far Cry,” I know you critiqued Yale's RULER emotional intelligence program because it often asks participants to cherry pick only bright and cheery feelings, categorizing them. Do you think a different framework would be more effective, or do you feel like categorizing them in the first place (not just as bad or good, but at all) should not be the main focus? I feel like there could potentially be value in encouraging the experiencing of more bright feelings—not in a cherry picking ONLY bright feelings kind of way, but more so in making an effort to maintain a somewhat optimistic view of things. What do you think about this in relation to cherry picking? 

*** In your first lexicon word in the book, "Advocate," your prompt on the page says: "What feeling, thought, and ethic would you, or do you, speak out for and in what ways?" I was thinking about this prompt while re-reading through your book, and was wondering—do you think silence can be a form of advocacy in certain situations? I couldn't really place my finger on any examples while thinking about this, but was wondering if you had any anti-prompt answers, if you will.


*** In “Author’s Note” you wrote: 

Fear is a powerful force and founded, of course, in countless circumstances and, more often than many of us realize, it’s a trigger, a memory, a fixation on the familiar...an echo!" 

I thought the idea of fear as an echo was quite interesting since it implied that so much of what we perceive as immediate fear is actually almost like a reminder or even reverberation of our past experiences. If fear is an echo, what happens when we make a conscious effort (without Love) to stop ourselves from responding to it—do you think that is even possible if fear is so primal? Does the fear fade, or does it demand louder and louder acknowledgment until it is fully addressed? What role do you think memory plays in redirecting, disarming, transforming fear? In what ways does that relate to love (if any)?

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