I know what it's like to be the person who, hard core, goes: "Feelings shouldn't matter." Like it just shouldn't...how can feelings matter when you need to survive?
And—lo and behold—they kept mattering. They kept affecting me...
...I didn't think it was real that you could be that sad, you could be that hurt, you could be that traumatized that you lost, what felt like, lost control of your will.
I didn't think it was real until it happened to me. Because nobody around me ever affirmed in any way that that could be real. Everyone around me made me think that if you could in any way be affected by your feelings that strongly, something was wrong with you.
I tried five million different ways to pull myself up by my bootstraps and it didn't work until I started taking care of myself and realizing that my feelings were not obstacles to my productivity, they were information about who I was and what I wanted.
Ashley C. Ford, as spoken on the November 2, 2020 episode of The United States of Anxiety podcast "An Invitation To Dream."
Thanks, Ashley, for what you said...it reflects, with such acuity, some of ELA's reasons for being here.
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